Scrolling through my Facebook timeline has also shed some light on my life. LIFE as you may have it, LIFE as you want it, LIFE as you embrace it.
To me it's all about priorities and managing expectations, underlying both is our foundation - faith and values.
Some twenty over years ago I had chosen to join the work force, after graduating. This is glaringly clear the path I took was the norm of the majority. Complete school, go to college, graduate, find a job.
I've had my ups and downs throughout my 26 years of employment ie "makan gaji kerja dgn org lain, company kaya kita dpt apa"
I tend to not agree with that general statement of "company kaya kita dpt apa" Kaya is an under rated word with majority tagging this word most of the time to money, riches and harta. For majority sake, I'll stick to that for now.
Despite my ups and downs, I've had (Alhamdulillah, still having and enjoying) my share of reasonably good remuneration. Over the years of employment, I have missed a few life events of those I love and those dear to me. Yes, I've missed a few of my daughters' birthdays...but what I did and where I was at that time had been good for me. Was I being selfish? Maybe. I gained a few things being away "at work" but benefitting in a few ways including personal development. So what is so bad about working in an employment making decent income gaining great life experiences at the same time? Yes, I missed a couple of birthdays, a few weddings here and there, unable to visit friends in need or in sickness at times but this goes back to managing priorities and expectations.
I don't see others who claim to be charting their life path as they see fit NOT sacrificing their beloved's life events here and there. In pursuit of having it all, I do see friends leaving family behind during times that matters to their loved ones. Why? "I so have to do this now, I need to care for my family and my gaji is not enough" I do respect your decisions dear family and friends who clock maybe 12 hours at work n another 4-5 hours in pursuit of creating a "life that I want"
Isn't that 12 hours + 5 hours a day spent working and chasing your dreams your life? What about your family and friends whom you have not made time for because you need to "create a life that you want" You sacrifice your time and energy the same way regardless if you work in employment or you work on chasing your dreams. Chasing your dreams takes so much more effort, time, energy at the expense of your loved ones' current needs. Yes, the finishing line is much sweeter, satisfying and so much more rewarding. How sure are you that your family, friends and loved ones will be there when you finally have the life you designed?
Unless you bring your loved ones on your journey in pursuit of your dreams, leaving them out of your life most of the time, can't be good for anyone.
I go back to what I had said earlier. Priorities, expectations, faith and value. If you have faith, you will know that The Al Mighty has given us "enough" when what we chose to do with our life has ALLAH's blessings.
Would I do differently if given the chance? Yes and no. There is no hard and fast rule to following the norm. If you do chose to earn your living by being employed, chose to do something that you enjoy. If you chose to earn your living doing your own thing, by all means, please do. Follow your heart, strengthen your soul, and march on.
I'm at the tail end of my employment cycle, but I'm not ending the earning my living part just yet. For as long as I'm given a life to live, I will earn my living....in all the "currencies" available. And I don't just mean money.
It's my life's experiences. That is unique to me and it is priceless.